Sunday, June 24, 2012

Of relationships, disability and damnation


Channel surfer

By
Randeep Wadehra


Kaun banega rashtrapati? This question has suddenly assumed more importance than it normally should. Generally it has been a given that the ruling party’s nominee would get elected – although VV Giri had upstaged Neelam Sanjiva Reddy in 1969, courtesy Indira Gandhi. When Mamata Banerjee and Mulayam Singh Yadav decided to “defy” the Congress Party Headlines Today could not hide its glee – as if the NDA had won the Presidential election stakes. On Times Now different experts tied themselves in knots while trying to infer new developments like Manmohan Singh’s name being proposed, along with that of Somnath Chatterrjee and APJ Abdul Kalam. NDTV, too, seemed to have been flummoxed by the cropping up of these names. Obviously, till the time of this piece’s submission, no one was sure about who would get the final nod – although most of the experts were inclined towards Pranab Mukherjee becoming the UPA’s – or whatever is left of it – candidate. Nonetheless, mathematical equations were still being computed to guess whether NDA would be able to trump UPA.

Satyamev Jayate’s 10 June episode (Star Plus, Doordarshan etc) focused on a marginalized stratum of the society, viz., the physically challenged. Certain pertinent points were made, viz., the country’s disabled populations wait endlessly for enabling gestures from the government; India has pegged the disabled population at 2% of the total while USA and UK have 5% to 9%! The gods have apparently been particularly kind towards us Indians. One point was not made: neither town planning nor building architecture is disabled-friendly. As for employers, the less said the better. However, the show lauded one Captain Brar, who considers his disabled employees as asset, and not beneficiaries of his meharbaanee.

How will it affect lovers? This question followed the Venus’s transit across the sun on TV and astrologers vied with astronomers for airtime. In real life love stands eclipsed by harsh realities wherein distrust, betrayal and violence rule supreme. Various talk shows had their own takes on love and relationships. Satyamev Jayate took on Haryana’s formidable Khaaps while discussing love-marriage related issues. The invited Khaap elders expressed their abhorrence for love-marriages because these are driven by “vaasna (passion or lust)”, and mumbled something about parampara. One really wishes the show had not confined itself to merely debunking the old system but had focused on suggesting a viable alternative instead. The society has to function according to certain rules, which ought to be in tune with changing social scenarios. Let us not forget that gotra based marriages have certain positive aspects too, viz., they ensure prevention of inbreeding and incest. Perhaps, this message could be delivered through moral suasion rather than coercion? Unfortunately, Amir Khan’s smart one-liners and lighthearted rejoinders nixed an opportunity for serious deliberations on such matters.

Meanwhile, more than one invitee sang paeans to love as if it is available in abundance in its most innocent and authentic form, ignoring the possibility that love also can have some unsavory aspects. Recall these lines from Milton’s Paradise Lost, “Of Man’s first disobedience, and the fruit/Of that forbidden tree, whose mortal taste/Brought death into the World, and all our woe...” And woes have been dogging a veteran politician for quite some time now. The N.D. Tiwari case was hanging between the sleazy and the seriocomic when the Supreme Court’s orders nudged it into a saner direction. But, the case has unleashed mirthfest on TV. On The Week That Wasn’t (CNN-IBN) there were a whole lot of persons whose DNA tests “proved” that they had a common father.

What would a child know of love and marriage? However, quoting from the Shariat laws of 1937 and 1939 vintage, the Delhi High Court recently upheld a 15 year old girl’s marriage as valid. Some of the panelists on The Buck Stops Here (NDTV) wondered whether such laws ought not be amended and brought in tune with the changing times as well as the country’s Constitution. Then followed the news of young girls’ travails in Haryana’s Apna Ghar; the perpetrators should be reminded of these words from W.H. Auden’s A Certain World, “All sin tends to be addictive, and the terminal point of addiction is what is called damnation”.

The edited version published in The Tribune dated June 24, 2012


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